Bonus Post.

Oprah’s topic on her show last night was about infidelity. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to watch the onset of the show and actually made it around the halfway point. There was this husband and wife pair discussing about the husband’s debauched relationship (well, however one sees it it’s still morally wrong, isn’t it?) with the wife’s best friend. I certainly admired their boldness and honesty, I mean, it is quite a daring feat to acknowledge a major felony (actually, marital infidelity is considered a public crime in the Philippines punishable by prision correccional) in front of billions of people. I kept a close watch at the aggrieved wife as the husband talked about how he and the other woman (wife’s best friend) did it at the couple’s own house with the unsuspecting wife just meters away from them. I actually marveled at how the wife kept control of her emotions but then again, maybe she had already walloped and lambasted her husband privately. (I’d definitely do that! ehehe..) The best thing about Oprah is that she bestows equality on her show. I said that because after the husband-wife segment the next person on her list was the other woman. I thought for one wild moment that it was the wife’s best friend (imagine the catastrophe it would create backstage!) but hers was another story. The other woman had a relationship with her friend’s husband for three years. She even threw a baby shower for the wife and while the wife was in the hospital after giving birth to their baby, the husband and the other woman was spending the night..er…erotically. (Now, this is getting nastier.) Her side of the story was more intriguing since her position was more of a prey-predator type. She was a prey for the husband and at the same time she was a predator to the wife, unlike in the first case, wherein the husband is merely a predator. (Now, now, boys…please, no gnashing of teeth at my words, I am merely stating a fact.) At the end, the psychologist in attendance (yes, there was a psychologist present to assess the two situations and to give advice) emphasized that a woman (whether single or married) should feel affronted and not at all honored if a married man strings along with them. (right girls, let’s give those married men a hard slap on their faces) Anyways, the show was quite enlightening. Especially when the psychologist spoke (in the first case) about how only the wife can help her husband heal (the husband looked sheepish and he appeared to be conscience-stricken, ehehe…) and vice versa. On the whole, the show rather gave me a deeper stance on marriage and commitment. Marriage is definitely and will not always be a bed of roses. It would forever be beleaguered with burdens and miseries. There would even be times when we would feel that love is slowly wilting away. Times when we would stumble upon someone else who fosters a feeling of rapture, of omnitude, of perfection. But as they say, these are the moments when we have to love our spouses more even if we have perceived them in their most despicable form. When we are able to unselfishly commit ourselves to our vows of perpetual union and the honor of our family, it is when we could say that we have the true measure of love.